Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Andaman - What an experience !!!




Target Audience: This blog is for all those lovely peoples who are interested in exploring beautiful places in India. We were searching for some nice place and one of my office colleague, Ankit, suggested Andaman. First thought, I was not sure if Andaman would be that worth as I was planning for Maldives or Malaysia. Andaman trip has totally changed my view and I am happy that I spent my money in India and could enjoy this beautiful yet very peaceful place. My aim is make it story like and at the same time giving all required details in one place also suggest  how many days to spend on which island and make small attempt to increase tourism to this place.

Trip break up:
I did lot of study and was initially very confused as to which island to go because Andaman has total 572 islands with around 33 having human life. The only airport in the islands is 'Vir Savarkar Airport' in Port Blair, which has scheduled services to Kolkata and Chennai. This means your port of entry can be only Port Blair and you will need to go either from  Kolkata or from Chennai. I did my air ticket using http://www.makemytrip.com/ from Delhi to Port Blair passing via Kolkata.  Out of so many island there are only 5-6 which are of tourism interest. Below is summary of how i broke my tip of 7 days (details in later part of blog):

1. Day 1: Arrive to Portblair and stay there watching Portblair city and cellular jail light and sound show.
2. Day2-Day3: Take ferry from Portblair to 'Havlock' island. Havelock is most beautiful of all island and worth spending as much time as you can. We spent two days in Havelock and wish could have spent more time there. Scuba diving is one of must attraction in Havelock.
3. Day 4: Take ferry from Havelock to 'Neil' island and spent one day here. Very small island but some very nice views to look.
4. Day 5: Take ferry from Neil to Port Blair. There are three islands visibly close from PortBlair- Ross island, Viper island and North Bay. Ferry tickets available easily in Portblair and whole trip will take around 5 hours.
5. Day6: Either go to 'Jolly Boy' or 'Bartang'. 'Jolly Boy' is known for corals and beach while Bartang gives you bus ride through Andaman forest and you can watch lime cave and mud volcano.
6. Day 7: Take morning flight back from Port Blair to Delhi.

Day1 [Delhi- Port Blair]:
We took 'Go Air' flight to Port Blair and arrived around 10:45 morning. From plane Andaman looks beautiful...breath taking...so many islands separated by  turquoise blue water, shining sand and coconut tree forests. 

One of Andaman's island from 16000 feet above

I had done booking to hotel 'Mainak ' http://www.themainak.com/ through MakeMyTrip and they give complimentary pick up from airport. Hotel is very average and I would rather suggest  hotel Bluesea http://www.blueseahotels.in/. We relaxed for a while in hotel and then took auto to cellular jail[Kalapani].
Ticket 25 rs per person with camera or 10rs without camera. It was very emotional moments to see how freedom fighters were tortured, beaten, made to work as animals, kept thirsty for days, whipped mercilessly till backs were full of blood, saw hanging room and could feel souls of dead people.We also saw Veer Savarkar's cell . In evening, attended Light and Sound show [tickets 20rs each] which depicts story of what happened in cellular jail with light and sound affect. 




















































Very shameful to feel that the country whose freedom costed so many lives and unbearable pain to our freedom fighter is now deep in corruption. Remembering freedom fighters returned back to hotel with auto.






Day2[Port Blair- Havelock island]:
We had done rest of the booking  through 'Majha Andaman' group 'http://majhaandaman.webs.com/contactus.htm and overall experience with them was very satisfactory. Definitely recommended, though I am providing sufficient details in this blog so that you can book everything directly. 
1. Took a ferry to Havelock in the morning. Link: http://www.makruzz.com/site/preferred_agents.html
2. Symphony resort room: 24. Met an auto guy Mithun.
3. Beach wife shy old aunty saying dont shy aish karo aish karne aaye ho
4. Havelock is very rich place and very good transport system. If you have driving license we hired white activa costing 350 INR for 24 hours and 150 INR for fuel from AKM travel.You can also hire bicycle costing rs 70 for 24 hours. Only one main road and not difficult to go around Havelock. Mainly two places: Radha Nagar beach and Kala Patthar. Back to hotel by evening and had nice vegetarian food.


Day3:
Havelock is a beautiful laid-back tropical island encompassing about 55 square miles, located about 2-3 hours northeast of Port Blair. 
1. Scuba diving is one of the main attraction in Havelock
2. Even ppl from port blair goes to Havelock for scuba.
3. Mortal man, full of fear of scuba...what if crocodile appears, big fish, not able to breath, lost inside water etc
4. Looking around and inquiring came two three names. we did through Ocean tribe. Barefoot scuba is the best one as we heard from people.
5. Our instructor was David. Smiling man and to us our only hope to be alive post diving. Took us to beach number 3 and started telling us details of scuba.
6. With everything on including dress, oxyzen cylinder, face mask which closes your nose and shoes the most difficult part is to have calm mind and then learn how to breath with the nozzle connected to oxyzen cyclinder. What if cylinder doesnt pump air when i m inside watre? what if the nozzle slips out of my lips? what if what if what
7. Inside water human sound waves don't work so needed a mechanism to communicate with each other. Symbols were created: 1. If you like something/ everything is fine: last three fingers straight, with thumb and next finger making circle 2. Stop: All fingers straight 3. Go down: Thumb down 4. Go up: Thumb up 5. Problem: Palm waving horzontally and then indicate the place where problem is like ear eyes nose etc
8. If you feel too much pressure in your ears try to push air out of your ear. If you feel water inside your nose blow air out with fingers on your forehead.
9. Inside you hear only two sounds: One of your heartbeat and other of bubbles that are created as part of your breathing out. I had never thought life inside water is so beautiful so magical. Fishes all around you and if you observe closely you ll see that fishes have their own mechanism to protect. They create sand holes and  as soon as you cross they ll go inside their holes. Many moving around in their group.
10. We went around 10 meters down and then i went with David again.
11. With great experience we were back in our lovely cottage and slept through all day.
12. Evening walked in Symphony beach and dinner.


Day 4:
1. Its very simple to get ferry from Havelock to Neil Island. My agent told me that ferry is around 12. Dont forget to do your own little inquries and on enquiring we found that ferry is morning 10. Agent's helper Nishi was to help us get ticket. Morning we checked out from Symphony and reached jetty point. I understood that you dont need any agent's help and can go yourself, stand in line and take ticket.
2. It's government ferry which costs 195 per person. Not very great travel experience still managable and we said good bye to havelock and reached Neil in around 1.5 hours.
3. Talking to ppl in ferry I realized that ppl marry cross island as each island has less population. Looked like a great idea. So if you see any locals travelling in ferry most likely he is going to his in laws or relattives
4. Reached Neil Island. We planned to stay one full day in Neil. It looked like not as rich as Havelock with less population and less resources. Our driver Vibhash picked us up and took us to 'Natural Bridge'. Natural Bridge, also popular as the Howrah Bridge, is situated on Neil Island.  The name Howrah Bridge was given by the local Bengalis.  
5. From here we went to Bharatpur beach. Not so clean and here it displays poor tourism facilities. Did not like cleanliness of the changing room or in the beach. Though Salman Khan did inspire and I was inside water showing my swimming skills. One soumum family(South Indian from Mumbai) started talking and we did not know that this family will be part of our journy all along. 
6. From here we moved to our hotel- Tango Resort. On first go i did not like Neil as much but looking at our cottage in Tango changed my views diagonally. We were given sea facing cottage and cottage was very basic and made of wood. Near sea  they had swings (hammock)
 tied to trees and beautiful beach. Lying on the swing felt like Nawab lying naked and enjoying beach beauty.
7. One englo-chines couple pulled my attention. There was some strange chemistry between them. Looked in their 70s but in very much peace with themselves.
8.  Back to cottage and rested for a while and in evening went to sunset point which is in Laxmanpur beach. This spot is just walking distance from Tango resort. you can walk across beach line. In ten mins we were in sunset point. Its very beautiful and necklace shaped beach point. endless water and perfect place to show your bathing talent. Sunset is mesmerazing and it fulls your soul with peace. I had binoculars which added spice to the moment as you can look at human beauty along with natural beauty bit closely :)
8. Back to tango room rested for a while and walked to their restaurant.
9. Here one old Bengali couple in their mid 70s started talking to us. The old man still fond of her old wife said to us that she used to look like Suchitra Sen. I tried to run my imagination to paint Suchitra Sen's face on the old woman's face but failed to do so only option was to nod yes to the old man's comment. He liked us a lot and said we reminded him of his time and gave us comliment that we are very lovely couple with beautiful girl and handsome guy. Agreed on guy's looks and passed no comments on woman;s side :)
10. Dinner not so great but getting anything good vegeterian on such small island itself is very amazing. Walked around out hut a bit and in between we watched one crab crawling with his shell and leaving his foot prints on the sand. It again showed that be it any creature be it any small or big knows how to protect his own life.
11. Back to cottage, door closed rest is not to be talked.
12. Started talking to one Spanish man and he said he will stay for 20 days in Neil island. I looked surprisingly to him but his view was very beautiful "If you travel, dont just touch places. Travel in ease and with time so that you just don't see places but you live places".


Day 5: 1. We planned to say good bye to Neil island. It was worth spending one day here. Reached to jetty point. Not many ferries comes to Neil island so you need to esquire about ferries and timing in advance. One ferry that comes from Port blair, returns back to port blair from Neil and its not difficult to get ticket. Tickets are given when you are inside the feery like its given inside the bus. Goverment ferry costing 195 per head from Neil to Port Blair.
2. On reaching Port Blair we felt as if we are in some metro town becuase in comparision to most of island Port Blair is very populated and very good infrastructure.
3. There is one ferry ride which covers three island: Ross Island, Viper Island and North Bay. All these three island are very close to Port Blair. The whole journey to all islands takes around 5 hours. Unfortunately govt had closed Ross and Notrh bay that day so we had to be happy just by seeing Viper island.
4. Viper island was the first Kalapani jail which was later shifted to Port Blair Celluar jail. Emotionally viper island is valuable but post tusnami there is nothing in the island except two broken small rooms. from my side definitely a no-no spot to visit and not worth your money. For more details read: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Viper_Island
5. Its easy to get autos in port blair and we went to Sagarika which is govt emporium in port blair and did some shopping. Back to hotel with dinner and good night sleep.


Day 6:   in Hotel Blue sea in middle point. very nice hotel and very good location. Definately thumbs up for the hotel.


1.Day 6 we had two options: either go to Bartang or go to Jolly boy. Jolly boy is beach with lots of corals while Bartang is north andaman with lime cave and chances of seeing Jarwa( tribal people). More information of Bartang: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baratang
2. We decided to go to Bartang and for this you need to either book ticket yourself (which your hotel ppl can help you in) or ask your agent.ticket costs 850 rs per head which also include breakfast and lunch. The bus to Bartang leaves morning 3:45.
3. We somehow managed to catch bus so early morning and slept through journey. One hour later there is jungle checkpost and all buses wait there till they are allowed to go inside jungle. Buses go inside jungle in groups and you are not allowed to take pictures to keep triabal life unaffected by civilization interference.
4. Once you get down the bus you need to take a govt ferry costing 4rs per person to reach  Bartang. Its the only connectivity between Bartang to other land part. On reaching Bartang, you will be asked to sit in boat with life jackets on and will be taken to lime cave. The boat journey indicates why you are asked to have life jacket on :) and breakfast is served in the boat itself. from here you need to walk around 2km to reach to lime cave and these caves keep increasing with each rains. The rain water causes lime caves to grow and in some years the cave will be closed.
5. from here we were dropped back to the place where we were picked from and were pushed inside a jeep. From here we were to go Mud Volcano. Jeep ride reminded me of the ride in 'Dancing with Stone'. This ride tested strength of every joint in our body and from there you need to walk half km to reach mud volcano. Scientifically mud volcano might have its importance but as tourist it was not worth this much pain to go and see bubbles coming from inside of mud.
6. I was very irritated to take this much pain and see lime cave and mud volcano and specially with the way the organizer had organized the whole event. They rushed us the whole time and i did not find it worth to wake up this early morning travel 3 hours to reach bartang, take painful boat/jeep ride to see lime cave and mud volcano. From my side a no-no to Bartang for any tourist purpose.
7. From here we were taken to small house for lunch and post lunch we took boat which costed us again 4rs per person to reach to the place where bus had dropped us.
8. Slept all the way in bus and reached port blair around 4 pm.
9. Rested in hotel with good dinner and good sleep.


Day 7: 1. It was time to say good bye to port blair and we were all packed with our stuff.
2. Hired an auto which costed us 30 rs from Hotel Blue Sea to airport
3. Airport is named after 'Veer Savarkar' and is very small airport.
4. Checked in everything and took our flight back to delhi remembering beautiful days we spent in Andaman.



Friday, December 17, 2010

Males are from earth...Females are also from earth...Let us deal with it

Target Audience:
This blog is for all those beautiful people who understand relations and have witnessed dynamics of it. Simple humans who like to be predictable and think "one life...one relation...one love..." is the only possibility, this is not for you. Plain living, never heart broken people, go the hell out from my blog and come back when you have loved at least once.If you are below 18, kid better concentrate on ur studies and don't even think about relations. Let us take this voyage together to find "hidden pearls" of relations.

Let Us Accept:
What are the two most complex systems that exists in the universe?Think...think deeper...bit more...ummm...two most complex entities in human periphery are "human brain" and "inter human relationships". Beauty of both have amazed me for years. Millions of thoughts crosses each human mind daily and each mind processes every bit of thoughts so differently so uniquely. Brain, in its own individuality, is eternally complex so when two brains agree to be in a relation, it ought to be multiple of complexities of each brain. Let us accept, relations are tough...dealing with other human is tough. Accept and appreciate because "Everyone is trying not to be lonely" and need to deal with relations. No worries, smile now and keep reading further for the hidden pearls !!!

How This Journey Began:
I was very shy, introvert and never used to talk to girls.Often, my shyness was interpreted as arrogance. As I grew up, I realized unfortunately life is colorless,tasteless,boring without females. If females are to be part of life why not try to understand them...U mean, understand  women...Are you crazy??? That's where this journey called "life" became interesting. I dumped my shyness, started exploring minds of msyterious creatures called women. Trust me, these beautiful, twinkling eyed creatures are so weired...so complex...hard to understand and are not easy to deal with. I am sure all male readers will give a grief nod on this and all females will agree but would pretend not to agree.
Why do females disagree when internally they want to agree, is an unsolved mystery which even spider-man keeps wondering :) Don't wonder, smile now and keep reading further for the hidden pearls!!! 

Troubled Relations:
Think about 10 married couples around you. Why most of them look so unhappy...dull...out of life? Did they not marry because they were rising in love.What happened then? Why love disappears within some years of relations? There is something wrong with our marriage system.If love exists between two people, won't their each tomorrow will become happier than today? Wont their face glow with love energy? Is their something lot of us lack to understand? Can't a relation be evolving, satisfying, self rising which fills our heart and soul with joy by each passing day? Answers to all such questions are what I call as hidden pearls...Don't be troubled and keep reading further for the hidden pearls!!!

Break Ups:
If you are still reading then you must have been in relation and most probably had a break up. I wonder why two words are called as Break "Up" and "Falling" in love.I had read somewhere "People should be in relation(s). Each relation makes you more mature...more patient...more open to things...liberates your mind, soul from many inhibitions and you start valuing your current relation more." Break ups are painful but most of us have gone through it. To learn to live without the person, who was whole world for us is painful.To let go is not easy. Emotionally, its very painful process. Our mind knows it but heart doesn't register it. Lots of people go in depression...bed ridden...in partial comma. Body stops nurturing...mind stops reacting...heart stops feeling...only breathes come in and go out.Break ups are shocks which shakes our mind our soul and breaks imaginary picture of "happily ever after" and forces us to realize dynamics of being with another human. This is intense negative phase. The love which was fulfilling our life starts drying us out. At times, Break up leaves ever lasting impression on a person's life. Reasons might be any, but it teaches us many things about life. Break Ups are painful yet very beautiful as they evolve you...grow you...change you...change your outlook and most importantly your expectations become "real". Just because you are broken up never say or feel bad about you ex relation. Respect your past..respect your gone love and pray that he or she lives happily. So, if you had a break up...think about beautiful moments you had spent with the person...be grateful to life for those beautiful moments with that wonderful person...thank life for beautiful memories. To let go is not easy but smile now...open your arms...open your heart...let breeze flow in...let rays of sunshine flow in...let your heart fill with the warmth...open your heart for  new relation...try to love again. If you are lucky to find love again, value your current relation more....love deeper now...give your best to your current love...this time with more passion...more devotion.Feel lucky that you are not like those simple plain never heart broken people :) Stop smiling now and keep reading further for the hidden pearls!!!

Why Conflicts Arises:
As a kid, I would see two beautiful people getting married with hearts full of love and then after some years I will see two ugly monsters ready to kill each other :) I started thinking, what went wrong. After years of thoughts, I concluded that its because of differences in thoughts, needs, expectations, expressions of male and female.Differences arises because biologically males and females are built differently. Male mind, hormones, body is wired totally different than females.If we understand opposite sex's mind conflicts will reduce. How many of us have ever tried to understand male/female mind?If not, why not? If we want better state of relation efforts are needed.
First hidden pearl: "Understand partner's mind and needs".
Let us bare male-female mind and I will keep adding more to this section based on inputs from the readers, specially for female part :)


Male Mind:
I feel proud to see the beautiful world from a Male's eye and feel honor for all men around.Ladies please read each word with care to make gentle men's life bit easier:)
Inner world of Male's mind and heart follows:
1. Males are visual : What we see is what we believe.No wonder, beauty attracts us because we can see it. So ladies please be careful on how you dress, on how you look. Even if you are in live in relation or married for years, try to look attractive.Beauty is superficial but remember we are visual. All men in the world desire Madonna, Pamela because we are visual. So ladies even though we are fine buying jeweleries for you, at times make us see Madonna, Pamela in you. When a woman keeps herself beautiful, male mind perceive it as her love for him. Keep yourself attractive and don't dare to become fat, dull, non desirable aunties :) 
2. Males are not interpreter: Male mind understands words as they are said with direct emotions. Often, we can't read untold words.Words are only words for us. Please ladies, have mercy on us :) and say exactly what you want.If we ask "What is wrong honey?". Females will often answer as "Nothing" and would expect us to interpret it as "Something is wrong".Why? Why can't you say you are not fine.Remember u needed a partner and not an interpreter. Don't get angry later if you don't say clearly. We promise to not understand what you have not said :)
3. Male ego is fragile: This is very important. We males show that we are very strong. But internally, male ego is very very fragile. On certain areas we are very insecure. A man will desire you so much if you can learn to appreciate his capabilities, his power and keep boosting his confidence. Its fine to disagree from him but DON'T attempt to poke his ego. Be careful on what you say. It might sound shallow but remember the way you value your "shallow beauty" please value our "shallow ego" also. With her words, a woman can give extraordinary heights to a man or can destroy his confidence to ashes.
"Women's words have power to transform a normal man to a super-man or a lay-man or even a no-man". Remember this and your man will be all yours.
4. Males are emotional: From ancient age male is shown as protector, hunter, warrior. But males also have emotions, heart. At times, we also want to cry our heart out. At times, please ask us if we are fine emotionally and if we are not fine we will say "No I am not fine". Remember we say what we mean :) On such moments, hug us and take us in your arms with full energy...make us feel loved...give us lot of affection...let your male relax in your arms for a while before he goes back to become a warrior.
5. Males hate instructions: The nature has made us in a way that we don't like taking instructions specially from woman. Ladies you might be intelligent, logical, spiritual but no man on this earth want to be with a woman who is constantly questioning him, instructing him showing him her intelligence.Just tell us what needs to be done and leave up to us on how it should be done. Don't ever tell us how we should drive:) Do we ever tell you, how food should be cooked or how you should put less make up on your face ha ha :)
6. Male desires: Male fidelity is under question across globe from Africa to America, across centuries from the time Adam started loving Eve to Tiger Woods slippage.Ever wondered why this happens? Because male hormones make them think about desires more often than females. Ladies please don't think that we are perverts. This is how we are built. Please allow your man to talk about his desires, his fantasies his crazy ideas. You might not like all of them but make efforts to address his needs. Male desires are as important to him as your emotional needs are. Male get more emotionally attached when he sees his female making effort to meet his desires. If a female ignores this, it opens doors to outside relations.
 Males-->Desires generates Emotions...Females-->Emotions generates Desires. Readers please smile and appreciate the difference :) and ladies please be more open and more courageous on this front and your male will be hooked to you like glue :)
7.Males are Jealous, Yes we are: Ladies,when you come back from work don't make us feel insecure,angry by appreciating how efficient your male colleague is. Don't tell us how our neighbor, Mr Sharma is better husband and helps Mrs Sharma in household work and goes to jog daily. The next thought that comes to our mind is to break your colleague and Mr Sharma's bald head :) Don't make us beat poor innocent guys :). By the way,did we ever tell you how beautiful Mrs Sharma is and how much we appreciate cooking skills of our lady colleague ha ha :) Ladies please DON'T compare us with any one rather tell us what you love in us if you want us to keep tolerating your mounting shopping bills which neither your colleague nor Mr Sharma pays :) No comparisons remember women's words have power.
8.Males love their solitude: When stressed about something males want to go back to their cell while females like to talk. Males prefer isolation, they need time to think,time to spend with self, time to find solutions. On such occasions, please don't get angry on us for being inside our cell. Please respect our solitude as much as you respect your talking needs when we are stressed.Better kiss our forehead, give us a hug and let us go inside our cell. Be supportive rather than being argumentative as we promise to come out of our cell very soon. If you support us, we will come out and will give you lot of attention, hugs and love.

Female Mind:
Before I attempt to enter this zone, I want to thank you ladies for making male world so beautiful, so peaceful, so colorful. We appreciate your beauty, your nurturing, your cooking, your shopping, your shoes, color of your hand bag and nail paint too:) You don't look fat and your new dress is so cute :)
Ladies you are better gender than us and we respect you for joining us on this lonely quiet planet and turning this into dynamic, talkative, complex yet beautiful planet :)
1. Females are imaginary: Females brain is more imaginary. They work more on imaginations and less on visuals. They see beyond skin beauty, they see the heart, the mind, the thoughts. They are more influenced by the "qualities" associated with a male rather than his skin only.No wonder, many beautiful women are seen with stupid looking guys :) Guys who can talk better, guys who can give more imaginations to female brain have easy way to a woman's heart. So guys don't be just dumb handsome. Trigger a woman's mind, thoughts, imagination and you will win her heart.
2. Females mysterious conversation: Females are born with skills what I call as "Mysterious conversation Skill". If they say "No" often its "Yes". When they say "nothing is wrong", surely "something is wrong" :) When they say "I hate you" it often means "I love you" :) Reason, female brain is more imaginary. To them, conversation is not just words but emotions wrapped with words. While talking to female, ignore words n try to read emotions wrapped. How? I think the best way during emotional conversations is to look straight into a woman's eyes.She might not express in words, but her beautiful eyes will always say the truth. Guys its tough to interpret, but believe me its worth making effort. If you can understand her "Mysterious conversation Skill" you are THE king of her heart.
3. Females have an  eye for details:  When two females meet their eyes scan dress color, sandals style, wrist watch brand, one hidden white hair on head, handbag, nails and what not. Not their fault, females are wired to have an eye for detail and they are very good in remembering those details too :) :) So next time when you go to meet your woman have a quick glimpse on mirror to make sure the details are all fine else she will complain ten days later and you will scratch your head wondering why  this complain is coming today.
4. Females need respect:  This is most important aspect we males need to understand and follow. Females are very sensitive creatures. Lots of males disrespect females in public places, trains, buses,street, crowded areas. I have never understood what satisfaction a male draws by doing such activities.This is a strict No No.A female desires love, respect and care to be able to generate any emotion for a male. If you really desire company of some woman first learn to respect her. Respect her, care for her, let her feel emotions and she will devote herself to you. DON'T attempt to disrespect her dignity. It might be a moment of fun for you but this might pain her soul for years to come.
5. Females don't need solutions,just the talk:  When a female is in emotional stress, her way to vent it out is by talking. All she needs is someone who can listen to her. Just be patient and listen to her because that's her emotional need. This is how she is built. She doesn't want your logical male solutions. Allow her to talk and in some time, without any solution she will be as happy as a male feels happy after coming out of his cell. Don't suppress her talks by turning on your logical male mind. She needs your heart and not your mind. Give her support...listen to her...hug her and let her relax in your arms for some moments and she will be in peace.
6. Females are emotion driven:  Emotions are what makes a woman so special. If she feels for you she will do anything and everything possible. Males, remember door to eternal devotion from a woman is through her emotions. Let her heart open...let her feel for you...let her take time...let her collect her thoughts. Let droplets of emotions pour in and with time she will make you shower with her love. Please don't push her to anything. Her emotions are as important to her as any other thing is for you. 
Females-->Emotions generates Desires. Males-->Desires generates Emotions...
Readers please smile and appreciate the difference :)
7. Small things matters:  A female is so beautifully made, so emotionally blessed that big material things don't matter much to her. Small things gives her inner joy, inner peace, inner happiness. A beautiful flower, a handwritten love letter, a stolen love glance, affectionate hug, soft touch of fingers, loving words from her man and little attention to her is precious to her. We male, often even fail to give her such small happiness and her beautiful eyes keep waiting, wondering if her wishes were so tough. Forgive us ladies, we males are stupid we provide you with money, cars, homes, costly gifts and all big materialistic things and forget that a woman's heart can be won by small beautiful things only. We males need to be more appreciative as they say   
"In a marriage, a woman leaves appreciation of many men for criticism of one man". Turn off, turn off criticism my male friends and I need to learn this too :( 
8. Uncategorized categorizations:  There are many female attributes which cant be categorized because female mind is too complex to categorize. Some simple,complex, white, black,cute,ugly female emotions:
a. Female intuitions are very strong and often right. They might not say it but they sense most of hidden emotions. Males be watchful our over smartness can't win over her intuitions. 
b. Females are attention seeker by nature. Beauty needs attention and we don't mind it :)
c. Females gets the last word in every argument.Anything a man says after, is the beginning of new argument :)
d. Next to the wound, what woman makes best is the bandage :) 
e. Woman inspires us to great things and prevents us from achieving them.Damn you ladies why are you this way  :)


Relationship Basics:
If we understood the differences of two minds,what next. Next is how two minds, hearts n souls should agree to enter into beautiful journey called "Relation".Why being with right person is important? Because once you are in relation with someone you can not share your emotions with others and since you are not with the right partner you stop sharing with him too. Meaning you have no one to share your emotions.
"A wrong relation makes you lonelier than when you were lonely".
There are many married males/females who are lonelier than their lonely single friends.
In my view, below are some more pearls which can make relation a beautiful journey:
1. Synchronization of Thoughts: We all emit thoughts of different frequencies and can receive frequencies of certain range only. "Synchronization of Thoughts" is biggest factor in any relation. If thoughts are expressed in some frequency and understood in the same frequency, magic starts to generate.One of my friend said to me: "It is not necessary that two nice people will always make a fulfilling relation and two bad ppl can not make a thriving relation". True indeed...ppl can be nice but they might not be capable of understanding frequency of other person. If they don't understand, relation start to degrade and nice ppl start making noise as they are not able to understand each other's music.
2. Physical Attraction: This factor is often in our mind but not talked openly. Its very important for two ppl to feel attracted to each other for relation to keep thriving. Within some years of relations, we start taking each other for granted and stop making efforts to remain attractive. With time, two attractive people become two lethargic people and their face start loosing love glow ;) It is very important for people to keep them selves fit and keep trying new things to look attractive to their partner.
When we make effort to look better, its one of the ways of saying to our partner that I am making effort to look better so that I can give better of myself to you. Its kind of devotion for your partner. Its not selfish act, if we change our outlook we will appreciate beauty of this giving act.
 3. Life Extraction: This is my favourite and most important. When two people come together for a relation, don't you think they are part of a team...a two member team for life...no boss no subordinate...team of two equal resources...two people who should have common goal...common extract from life. If two minds are in perfect sync with deep desire of extracting same thing from life, I am sure their relation can't become miserable. Let us understand this magical thing with lighter note, one of my friends is very miser and luckily his wife is also miser. To the outer world, they are miser people but guess what, they have common extract from life-"Money" and at the end of the day both of them tells each other how they saved some pennies...feels satisfied...hugs each other with their heart full of love.As a team they have extracted same thing from life. Funny but it does magic to them.
4. To Connect: This is very beautiful. Many people, specially in India, think that they can "generate" love after they marry person of parent's choice.The truth: "One can not generate love for anyone. There are certain kind of people we can appreciate, respect, adore but can't love. We can feel love only if we connect to the person". Love can't be generated just because you spend time with someone. Sometimes, by all logic a person seems fit for relation but even after trying hard love doesn't flow. While at times, a person seems all wrong still we fall for him. Reason, we "Connect" to the person. To connect is so beautiful, its like soul to soul flow,like two birds flying in the sky with their wings touching each others, two musical instruments playing in sync to create magic, two snow mountains staring each other. When we connect strongly to someone, we become part of him...souls starts mingling...love rains start pouring and one day two souls become one and this state is "State of Trans", "State of One Ness", "State of One Unit".
5. Bring better of each other: Be it dealing with relatives, family or working with colleagues "some  people take out best of us and some brings worst of us."  People have power to induce other people thats why we start smiling when we see smiling face. Our behavior in relations becomes habit. Initially when a boy meets a girl both smiles often...with time they smile less and then smiles become rare events. I read  somewhere "Couples who laughs together stays together..." so true and so magical and I think lot of us, including me need to learn this. When tension fills the room a small laughter can change everything. Appreciate each other more and attempt to bring best of each other to bring best of relation. Find any activity which makes you both laugh, talk funny things, read jokes together. It might seem artificial but with time it will become habit and your house will be full of laughters and positivity. 


Before selecting partner, two ppl should talk about what they want to extract. If two have common extract, have physical attraction thoughts are in sync and most importantly if you connect..get in relation and extract the best of ur common interest from life..feel lucky and feel satisfied because most of the people don't meet desired partner in their whole life.Hug each other with hearts full of love like these two miser people ;)


Drawing In The Unknown:
The journey so far has been beautiful. I have done my share of mistakes and have tried to learn from each experience. I would often rub out everything to redraw n redraw. I realized that "Attempting to draw, rub out, redraw,rub out and redraw is such a beautiful process". It will open so many unknown and will give you a way to a woman's heart. Picture is not yet complete but at least now I can draw something...dots are connecting. Every couple reaches to some height of inner happiness in a relation. The inner joy, satisfaction they can reach depends on basis of relation, how the relation has evolved and how they have "made efforts" to make it beautiful. I have given my pearls to you readers. I strongly believe that if you get a potential partner state of constant joy, state of eternal happiness, state of soul mingling or a state called as "state of one ness" can be reached where chaos will end...where limitation of bodies will vanish...eternal blue sky with two souls becoming one...


One blog is not sufficient to summarize relations. I specially wanted to write more about  beautiful "Trans State" and how couples can reach to this state.Based on feedbacks from readers I will plan to post sequel of this post :) With beautiful believes and beautiful thoughts I go back to my journey and hope we all live a better state of relation with our partner and one day most of us are able to attain  most fulfilling, satisfying, nurturing, evolving state of relation which I passionately call as "Trans State" of relation.


Sayonara,
Abhay

Friday, July 3, 2009

Snapshots from Life !!!

I have been thinking to reflect my life into words but have been sitting on fence for quite long..today something kicked my butt and I m down from the fence making an attempt to pen down major events n ppl till today in my life.
Target Audience:
This blog is for people who are bit interested in my life. If you are very focussed n objective person you might not want to waste your time here :) Though it details my life events but each one of you readers life would correlate to something or other. Sorrow, joys, frustrations, unanswered mysteries r every one's life share. I am also writing learning from those events with the intension that it might help some of the readers. If you can correlate to some part or somethng triggers your mind, heart or soul do write in comments.

Life as a kid:
I was born in a village near jabalpur as a second kid to my parents.My dad and mom still argue over exact time of my birth.No electricity..no watches...my mom says she heard sound of the bus that used to bring my dad from city to village every night at 9 pm..my dad counterparts her saying, that night bus had punctured on its way !!! (No wonder why my life is bit bumpy hi hi)From that night till today I have hardly seen them reaching to any conclusion together....part of marriage bliss I guess ha ha.
So here I am born into the this insane world...now what do I do? I was puzzled for months so I kept lying on my bed wondering and gained lot of weight..I would look around like a baby crocodile and everyone thought that I was dumb.They named me "Abodh"[someone who is clueless @ things]. Wish my relatives were more prudent ;)
We shifted to town..I did my primary education and then I cleared exam for Navodaya. Navodaya is a government run free lodging boarding school. So I left my family and went to boarding school from class VI.My mom played a major role in shaping my thoughts as a kid.Whatever I am today is because of her.Love you mom.But do I really have to go to boarding school :( :( By this time my nick name got distorted n became Abbu.
Boarding Cage:
The school hostel was in a cinema hall which was closed. Around 200 students in one big room portioned into three.Non ending chaos...no cleanliness...bare minimum facilities...canteen food often will have boiled worms with rice...initially i wud thro the rice but gradually I got too tired of throwing it so wud take out worms..put it aside and continue chewing rest of my food-Survival lessons :)
Life in boarding was hell but this changed my attitude towards life...problems became part of daily life...and as the saying goes "If you are tangled just tango" so gradually I started enjoying the problems.Sheer competition was a big gift in hostel.
Some of the crazy things I did in school to beat my rivals:
1. I wud wake up at 4 in the morning...crawl like a lizard without making any noise and would go out of the room to study in the street light so that my competitors in the class wud not wake up and I could study more than them...I was nuts :)
2. I would hid inside blanket with a torch and would study when lights are turned off so that no one can see me studying...alas
3. I would go for play with all my frnds and in between I wud skip without anyone noticing me so dat I get extra 30 mins to study.
3. I wud sleep during dinner time and wud ask my frnd to bring dinner for me so that I wud be fresh for studies till late night.
4. I wud smtimes try to tie my hair with a thread to the ceiling so that my hair wud get pulled as soon as I fall a sleep during studies...creativity to the best :)
No wonder I was superdog of my class with highest marks in all the subjects.
Then a turn came to my life in class VIII. One of my teacher-"Bisen Sir" wanted me to participate in debates...I was too shy for it. He gave me three chances and said:if u cant win at least one I wud let someone else take over u...I lost first...lost second..third one was coming...whole night I let my creativity wander in every part of my mind...I knew this is the last time...prove it or get the fuck out...I won that debate and it opened a new stream into my personality. I became new face of the debates...elocutions...best cultural student of the year. This was the point where I discovered the importance of giving words to thoughts.

I wud read books,new papers,wud listen othres talking and in the process I wud collect words phrases which I wud use in next debates.I owe "Bisen sir" my this skill.
I learnt:
1. dat expression of thoughts is a hard earned skill.
2. dat words has tremendous power.If used at right place,at the right time with the right technique they can do wonders for you.
3.dat at times just because someone has deep faith in ur capabilities you tend to go beyond your own thresholds.

Another teacher-"Sharma Sir" has shaped my life a lot. He was not my warden still he always wanted me to be on top in my studies.Some of my frnd used to blame him of being partial towards me.May be his faith in me was same as Dhronacharya's faith in Arjun.He was not just a teacher to me but a life mentor and parent in hostel.He wud come to my room and talk to me for hours enlightening my soul with his thoughts.It was a very distinct,unforgettable relation between a teacher n student.

"Roy sir" also gave me directions at times.He himself is a very good writer so he wud give some good liners to his students for debate while I wud write things of my own and I always beat his students even though their content was better.
What is required to be a great debater?
In debates content matters but the facial expression...pauses during sentences...voice modulation...vigor in ur eyes...convincing power in ur words matters more and it comes naturally when u hv ur own thoughts.
As a kid I was very introvert but very thoughtful.I used to observe things,ppl,situation and then extract something frm them to make my own thoughts.I preferred to be a listener because "only a good listener can be a good speaker".Silently I was absorbing thoughts from the universe so that I wud reflect them to my audiences later.
Summer Vacations:
I wud come home and it wud feel like heaven.We had a very small house with water leaking from roof during rains and I always feared dat one night fat people living upper floor will fall on us:)but I always felt peace in my house and I firmly believe that materialistic things can't bring happiness at home.It's the thoughts of the people living there dat plays magic.We as a family never had any bigger conflicts among us.My father was an angry young man like Amreesh Puri,not ready to accept anyone breaking his rules,but now he has mellowed down a lot and became like Anupam Kher willing to do anything for my happiness...what a transformation ha ha.My father could never make it big financially but he has a very progressive mind.He always believed in finding solutions and improving quality of life.He is from a village but he wanted me to learn English and for this he started learning it of his own too.He and I wud try to converse in British language and I wud try to talk to anyone I cud. It was this period where I fell in love with the language.

Brothers Bonding:
I had an elder brother.He was very emotional,impulsive and driven by his heart. Like any other siblings we had our own fights,fun,jealousy,differences but with time we started understanding each other better.I had started becoming close to him emotionally n we started sharing things with each other.Everything seemed on track but destiny is full of surprises :)My brother was in hurry probably,one fine morning he decided to say good bye to this world and left us wondering why? some questions are never answered in life I guess.Has been 13 years now but quite often I see him in my dreams.Next time whenever I meet him in real I will get my answer and I'll update this blog :) Life moves on n this became a turning point in my life. I left boarding school and returned back home to be with my family and joined central school in my town.
Precious outcomes of Navodaya: I had some wonderful memories and life time frnds: Gulab Tiwari,Mukesh Jyotishi,Vinod Sharma,Devraj Jatav,Vikas,Shyam Sunder to name few.

A major shift in thoughts:
I got into central school which was 15km away from my house very differentfrom my boarding school. I was super dog in my boarding school and all i knew was to study as many hours as I cud.In new school I met two guys:Mayank Agrwal and Abhishant Pant who contribute a lot in my life. Mayank was the topper of the this school but he was so different from me. He wud do fun things,wud do things that guys at adolescence do,wud talk rubbish at times,wud do all naughty things still he managed to be miles ahead of us.I tried to defeat him for one year but cud never go even close to him.He was unconquered king of our class.
I learnt from him:
1. dat life is not just @books.Life has other beautiful things to do.
2. dat to be topper doesn't mean u have to be very obedient.
3. dat u can be genius still u can behave silly wid ur frnds.
He was very humble and grounded even though he was a genius.I started feeling very relaxed once I knew n accepted that I cant defeat him. The pressure of being a super dog went away from my head and I was happy being an underdog as now I cud enjoy life more.
Abhishant-Guy with golden heart.Someone who has a soul which is not affected by outer world.His house was mid way on my way to school. I wud go to my school on my bicycle and it made me lifeless so on our way back I wud hold Abhishant's shoulder so that I wont have to paddle and he wud drag me hanging on my bicycle till his house so that I will have to paddle less.Friend in need is a frnd indeed:).From his house I will paddle back to my house.30km a day for school and then around 10 km for coaching so 40km a day cycling. what a fun it was ha ha.

Mayank got thro IIT with 35th rank and got 2nd rank in state engineering entrance(called PET hence forth).We knew dat he was a genius but never knew dat the guy who used to be so much like us was such a gifted guy.I got 1640 rank in PET and decided to take a year drop to reappear for exam. I was inspired by Mayank's success.Most of the times genius people have shorter life span don't know why. Again this is among some of the unanswered why. I hate you god(if u exist)for such whys.Mayank said good bye to this world suddenly.He breathed his last in IIT Kanpur.He inspired and encouraged our souls in such short life.Life is so fragile...Is there a way we can make it bit robust?On the slip of a moment,someone can be gone forever and we feel helpless.We can do nothing? why life has to be this way? Why why why !!! Universe I need an answer...please...I need it.
Precious outcomes of Central School: Apart from change in thoughts I made some deep frndship with Abhishant, Rahul, Shatrunjay, Aditya, Deepak, Manisha, Rajat.

Life's biggest achievement:
My father's dream was that I must be in top 100 students in PET exam.I had an aim and I was determined.I am not as genius as Mayank but my will power is very unique in its own way. I was studying 16-18 hours a day with one aim:PET exam-top 100.I left every fun of life like a saint in forest trying to achieve some spiritual goal. Result came and I got 23rd rank in PET in whole MP state and joined Regional Engineering College(now called NIT)Nagpur. This turned out to be a big milestone in my life. I cud see pride in my parent's eyes for the first time. Ah ha I did it. Bingo :)
I also added one more frnd in my small list:Dipesh Tiwari.

College- Best days of my life:
College campus was huge and we all were excited to be in college watching pretty faces hi hi.I had learnt to be underdog and it made my life lot easier.I knew dat there is lot if life than just studies. Took part in all debates,personality contests, elocution and was known for my speaking skills.College taught me a lot @ relation and living in hostel was the best thing in my life.Those care free days...college bakar...slang words...abuses...late night gossips...ragging nights...pulling each others legs...pushing each other for this girl or dat girl...last night practical completion...bunking classes at times...proxies...spending more time in canteen than in classes.College made me tough...it turned a shy guy into somewhat extrovert...
It taught me
1. dat allowing body to swing randomly with music is also kind of dance :)
2. dat most important things in life are completed last minutes only.
3. dat u don't have to be very organized in life.
4. dat u don't just need marks to be successful in life u need strong personality traits.
5. dat its good to be loved and lost than be never loved.
6. dat ppl can still enjoy life with no money in their pocket.
7. dat ppl close to u might hurt u at times n u need to learn to forgive them and at times one need to forgive ourself also.
I think everyone shud live in college hostel once. It will change ur outlook towards life completely. U wud learn to appreciate unorganized yet very fulfilling life ways. I came out as a very different man from college. Got thro campus selection in Kanbay,pune.
Precious outcome from College: I had my job...sense of independence...sense of being financially secured one day...sense dat now I can repair my old house n not worry about fat ppl(who by d way grew fatter in years lol)falling on me.Apart from this I made longtime frndship with:Anurag(Hiran), Yogesh,Narendra,Neelesh,Yogesh(chotu),Monjit,Vikas,PNT,Mohit,Meghna to name few.

Job life:
First job...so many dreams...thrill to get self earned money. I started as a slow learner but deep inside I knew that I have what it takes to be in this industry.I paid back most of family debts and with time started showing my capabilities. But I was always fascinated by USA and wanted to be in dat land so job changed and joined a MNC in Delhi. I had some of the best days of my life with some of my frnds there who are bit busy with their own lives now :)

Life in USA:
Struggled for 1.5 years in new company to go to USA.I had my own perception @ US as per whatever I had seen on TV.I thought all cities were lot happening wid ppl partying around...women roaming semi nude like Madonna...ppl boozing all over...free n wild public display of affection all over...tall buildings...a dream fantasy land.

I landed in San Francisco airport and from there went to suburb town-Belmont. It was nothing like what I had imagined.No tall buildings...no crowd...no semi nude bodies...no parties...am I really in US or somewhere else? I just saw cars running 70-80 miles per hours.No bird chirping...no noise. So much quiet...Indians are used to noise all d time quietness was killing me. I hated US for months as I was still struggling to adjust. I kept wondering why is this country world's biggest power.Gradually I became used to lifestyle and decided that I will go to places every weekend.Had bunch of frnds n we started exploring California all over. Travel teaches u more lessons than any other book.I started learning more @ Americans...started understanding why they go sky diving...jump into sea...ride on hills...why they sound so crazy...Americans life is not just driven by struggle to get a job n do things what others expect them to be.They are taught to be independent from childhood n do things they like to do. If someone likes to do wooden work he wud do it unlike in India where most of us r taught to be Engineer Doctor or Managers n be happy with life dat most of the crowd follows.
Day today life is very easy in US. No traffic...no chaos...no unwanted noise....clean air....clean water...no power problem...not much social obligations n best part, rules are made n followed too. They are many steps ahead of Indians when it comes to respecting other person's space and respecting public utilities.Their system is not corrupted in the roots.
My manager was "Ray Potter" n he is among some of the very few ppl I respect professionally. One day he called me n said u work too much...u are in US to enjoy new culture go out n have fun too. Next week I was in Las Vegas with bunch of frnds:)I also realized dat Americans have their own culture unlike many ppl who says they don't have culture.Lot of ppl are very attached to their families n loyal to their relations. Infidelity is part of every culture n exist from the time Adam n eve ate that apple :).In India its hidden in US its all open.
American taught me:
1. dat life has to be lived.Life is not just @ work n money.
2. dat life is @ experiences.
3. dat with little respect for each other we all can have enhanced quality of life.
4. dat there is a part of the world where day today things are done in right way.
5. dat its better to be a good gross cutter than be a bad programmer :)
6. dat you have to follow ur life with ur own rules.

I still remember when I got a glimpse of "Grand Canyon"...all I cud say was nothing. I have never seen anything as beautiful as that glimpse. I made some very close frnds there n have life long memories of US.

Returned back to India n then again flew to New Jersey,US. I was living very close to Manhattan,NewYork n it did not took long before I fell in love with the town. None of the Indian city have the kind of energy...fun...fire...dynamics New Yrok has. New York is what most of us see in TV. Wild,vibrant,dynamic,sky scrappers,crowd pushing u all d time,locals train(subway). Mumbai is bit closer to New York but very low in infrastructure. I had some of the best days of my life in this trip.I got chance to work with Russians n understand them a bit.

Exposure to US has broaden my vision @ life.I have started living for me n not as what society wants me to be. I learnt to be myself.I m very thankful to life dat I got to experience amazing country like US n could enrich my thoughts.No wonder its worlds biggest power. I visited most of the bigger cities:San Francisco,Los Angeles,Las Vegas,New York n I will cherish those memories for years to come.

India and life:
Now I m back in India for past some months. College is a fantasy land but job teaches u real world. I m enjoying my work n loving my life. There will always be unfulfilled desires,dreams,wishes but on a larger scale "life is beautiful" because I am lucky to be born in my family n lucky to be capable enough to meet my responsibilities. I have made my own thoughts. I am a self made person(with blessings from my parents).Human assets are important and one should aim at building five such assets on whom u can trust blindly.
I have made some of the wonderful relations so far. I m very close to my parents, Nidhi(my sister),Ram(Ranu)-Satyam-Shivam(cousins),Fouzia(college sis)Shruti-Abhishant-Shishir-Neerja-Umesh(frnds) Life is moving with its own pace. Life will always be full of up n downs n dats the beauty of life. I struggle...sometime I win sometime I loose but one thing that I never loose is my determination to get up again and hit one more punch...life is beautiful not because of money I have but because of beautiful hearts that r close to me.....

Sayonara,
Abhay Shukla

Friday, June 26, 2009

Financial Independence

Target audiences:
If you are among those middle class suckers who are satisfied with 9-6 "safe jobs" don't waste your time reading this blog. This is not for you. Go away right now!!! This is for people who have nerve to do something different...people who dare to dream...
Thought Process:
Some years back I was reading a book that changed my outlook towards finances completely. It taught me about "Financial Independence". Most of us are caught in a rat race. Get a job..take a loan of 30 lacs or so...buy a house...and keep paying EMI of 30k for twenty years...Get married..need a car...crib for salary hike....changed job for higher salary...bought a car...start paying car EMI...have kids...more expenses...crib again...job changed...kids school..crib again...job changed...kids college...crib again...job changed...retired paying loans...no money left...die peacefully n penniless or at the most being a middle class insect :) isn't it true for most of us who belong to middle/poor class families?

Is there a way out of this rat race? Is there a way I don't have to worry @ finances when I am older? Can I be "Financially Independent"?
In search of answers two terms coined:

Asset: Something that brings money to my pocket .
Liability: Something that takes money out of my pocket.


[Asset-Liability] is measure of one's financial independence.The higher the difference the more financially independent person is. One should never let Liability take over Asset. As soon as Liabilities exceeds Assets a new rat is put into rat race.

Like I took a house loan of 27 lacs resulting into 27k EMI...my monthly liability:27k.If my monthly expenses are 15k,my total monthly liability will be [27+15]=42k .Say my salary is 50k(by d way i earn a lot more than that ha ha) so this is my Asset. What's my net financial independence:[(Asset)50-(Liabilities)42]=8k per month. To increase this difference I rented out my new house for 11k.Even though ppl were attaching lot of emotions saying how can u rent new house? I ignored such emotions because finances don't run on emotions. I would rather save my emotions for my future wife :) So the gap increased to [11+8]=19k per month. This is the amount which I can use to enjoy luxuries in life. Bigger the amount more will be luxuries in my life....Good enough for now :) but not enough for future. So what do i do? crib and change my job like all other rats? will it solve the problem or will it put me into rat race? will it be long term vision or short term sight? Then what is longer,deeper and persistent vision? Somehow i need to generate a mechanism that will keep nourishing my Assets so that it keeps growing at a faster pace than my Liabilities and I have to chain down my Liabilities so that they don't grow faster.The more difference I can create wealthier I will be.

What do rich people do differently? Do they earn money for themselves or do they make money,people, resources earn money for them? Does Steve Jobs[Apple CEO- am big fan of him] keep writting software programme to generate money? If he were, would he be THE Steve Jobs or would he be JUST Steve Jobs?

Pointer:
Everyone has 24 hours in a day.Poor or average people earn for themselves while rich people makes a system so that system generates money for them so that they can enjoy luxuries in life....

So key to financial independence is to "Build Assets"-something that brings money to my pocket and keep feeding them. Assets can be investments in fixed deposits,mutual funds,high return bonds or a self made system that generates money.

My Dream:
I want to be financially independent by the time I am 40 so that I can take long vacations go to different parts of the world with my partner and experience different shades of life.Doesn't mean I will stop enjoying life today...life is a precious gift and each moment should be lived to the fullest...live as if it is the last moment of life...its just that gradually and consistently I will keep building my Assets too...I don't want to be that stupid rat and keep working till my 60s and in that process I don't experience better things in life.I want to build a system...put right people and right process into it. Building a system is always painful...Entrepreneurs are not made easy are they? But once system is build it will start generating money for me and I will be enjoying beaches in SanDiego or in Australia :)

I do hv some plans in my mind of what I want to build...waiting for some of the things to happen in life...once those things are done I will be on my way to be financially independent. Want to join me in this journey or do u want to keep continue in dat non sense rat race? oh come on u middle class mind :) come wid me or if you cant then join my system and generate money for me :) i will make a system where I will be providing a race track for some of the rats...wanna run...track is all free for you......till then.....

Sayonara,
Abhay Shukla